Living with a stoma has been a transformative journey. I was diagnosed with bowel cancer (advanced colorectal carcinoma) and needed emergency surgery. Waking up in a hospital bed, staring down and underneath my hospital gown at a plastic bag attached to my abdomen, the thought of living the rest of my life with a stoma seemed daunting. However, it has taught me to appreciate life more deeply, to celebrate the small victories and it has redefined my outlook on life.
A new perspective on life
Before my surgery, I rarely stopped to appreciate what I had fully and often took everyday moments for granted. I was completely entrenched in my work and climbing up the corporate ladder. I was staring at my inbox and working long hours on evenings and weekends. But my stoma has shifted my perspective, helping me focus on the present and cherish the simple joys. Whether it’s enjoying a cup of coffee in the morning, feeling the warmth of the sun on my face or having another chance of hugging my family. These moments now hold more meaning, and I live with the sense of having a second chance on life.
Celebrating small wins
Every day brings its own set of challenges, but it also brings opportunities for small wins. Successfully managing my stoma care routine by finding the right products is a victory in itself. Each time I navigate a social outing or host friends and family without any issues, I feel a sense of accomplishment. I’ve taken part in fundraisers for some amazing causes which has inspired my children to take part. These small wins boost my confidence and remind me of my resilience.
Finding joy in new experiences
Living with a stoma has opened up new experiences and opportunities for growth. I’ve become more adventurous, trying activities I might have avoided before. I’ve dedicated my social media and created a website to raise awareness of bowel cancer and what it is like to live with a stoma. I’ve had the privilege of working with some amazing charities, and I’ve had my story told in national newspapers and magazines. I’ve been on podcasts and radio to help break down the stigma and misconceptions about stomas.
Building stronger connections
The journey has also strengthened my relationships. I’ve found support in unexpected places, and the kindness of friends and family has been overwhelming. Through social media I’ve been able to connect with others who are going through similar experiences, creating a supportive community where we can share tips, stories, and encouragement. I’ve become an Ambassador for Respond Healthcare which has given me a space to write and share my experience. I’ve created a network of understanding and empathy.
Embracing positivity
The stoma has taught me the power of positivity. Instead of focusing on limitations, I choose to see the possibilities. Where others see a barrier, I see an opportunity to collaborate and make positive changes. This mindset shift has improved my overall well-being, allowing me to tackle challenges with a positive outlook.
Living with a stoma has been a journey of self-discovery and growth. It has taught me to appreciate life, celebrate small wins, and find joy in everyday moments. While the path hasn’t always been easy, the positive shifts in my life has been profound. Embracing these changes has allowed me to live more fully and appreciate the beauty in the small things.
