It’s hard to believe that eight years have passed since I first received my stoma. A lifetime of adjusting, learning, and growing. But over the past year, I’ve noticed significant shifts in how I view myself, my body, and my mental health. What was once a source of uncertainty and distress has slowly become an integrated part of my life. Still, it hasn’t been without its challenges, and as I reflect on this past year, I’m reminded of how far I’ve come – both mentally and emotionally.
The challenges: navigating the ups and downs
Life with a stoma is not static. There are days when I feel empowered and in control, and then there are moments when the weight of it all feels heavy. Throughout the last year, I’ve faced some intense mental health hurdles: the constant self-awareness of my body, the societal perceptions around having a stoma, and the occasional flare-ups that reminded me of the fragility of my health.
At times, it felt like I was holding onto two versions of myself – one that was strong, confident, and moving forward, and another that still struggled with the vulnerability of living with a stoma. There were moments of frustration when I’d face challenges that seemed trivial to others but felt overwhelming to me: dealing with leaks at the worst possible times, managing skin irritation, or simply feeling “different” in a world where the focus is so often on physical appearance.
But perhaps the most challenging aspect was the emotional weight of isolation. It’s easy to think that you’re the only one going through something like this. There’s a sense of alienation that comes with having a medical device attached to you. It’s invisible to others, but it’s always there, and sometimes, I just felt like it defined me.
The growth: finding strength and adaptation
However, looking back, I can see the ways in which I’ve grown. I’ve learned that living with a stoma doesn’t have to mean living in a constant state of stress or fear. With time, I’ve developed a routine that helps me maintain both physical and mental well-being.
One of the biggest shifts has been in how I view my body. In the past, I saw my stoma as a burden, as something that interrupted my life. But over time, I’ve realized that it’s part of me, not a hindrance. My body is still capable, still strong, still worthy of love and respect, despite its differences. The more I learned about my body, the more I was able to care for it in a way that felt empowering. I’ve become more adept at managing my stoma, handling the inevitable issues that arise, and keeping a positive mindset despite the occasional setbacks.
I also realised that mental health and self-care go hand in hand. Regular mindfulness practices and reaching out for support when I need it have all been game changers. There’s no shame in asking for help, whether it’s emotional or physical. Connecting with others who understand what it’s like to live with a stoma has helped me build resilience and a sense of community.
Looking ahead: a vision for 2025
As I step into 2025, I feel a sense of hope and possibility. I’m no longer consumed by the thought of my stoma – it’s just one part of my life. Looking ahead, I’m focused on nurturing both my physical and mental health in ways that make me feel my best.
One of my primary goals for the coming year is to continue prioritising self-care. I want to build a more consistent routine that balances physical activity, rest, and mindfulness. My physical health has such a direct impact on my mental well-being, so staying in tune with my body and its needs will remain a priority.
Mentally, I aim to continue growing by embracing vulnerability. I’ve come a long way in accepting my stoma, but there’s still room for growth in how I view myself – especially when I’m in social situations or facing challenges in public. This year, I want to challenge the stigma around living with a stoma, and advocate for myself and others more boldly.
Additionally, setting boundaries around mental health will be crucial. I’ve learned over the past year that protecting my energy is vital for maintaining balance. Whether it’s saying no to situations that may be mentally exhausting or practicing better self-compassion, I plan to focus on ensuring that my mental health remains just as nurtured as my physical health.
I also see 2025 as a year for deepening my connections with others who share similar experiences. Being able to share stories, tips, and emotional support with fellow stoma warriors has brought so much healing and strength into my life. I plan to seek out more of these communities and perhaps even take on a more active role in supporting others on their journeys.
Embracing the future
Looking back over the past year, I’m filled with gratitude for the growth I’ve experienced. Living with a stoma has undeniably altered my life, but it hasn’t defined me in the ways I once feared. The mental and emotional journey has been challenging, but it’s also been transformative. I’m proud of how far I’ve come, and I’m excited for what’s ahead.
As I head into 2025, I will continue to embrace my stoma as part of my journey, taking care of myself, pushing through the tough days, and seeking out joy and connection whenever I can. Life with a stoma may never be without its hurdles, but I’ve learned that I am more than capable of overcoming them. And that, I believe, is one of the greatest lessons of all.
